Inspirational , Motivational & Positivity Blog

Bulb-Magazine is an inspirational blog, willing to help readers through tough times. Bulb-Magazine isn’t another run of the Mills' blog, which would feel in tune with already existing dullness. Our blog would bristle its way through reader’s mundane lives. Readers can piggyback on our content to offer a great start to their day. You would feel spirited even on the cruelly mundane days. We are selective about our content to make Bulb Magazine, a gem of a motivational blog. We rely on the simple things to be effective with mind magic – will power, reception, and active mind.

What would we be doing?

We intend to let our visitors have a surreal experience here. Visitors would see motivational items like quotes, articles, and videos shared here. Gaining on productivity and positivity is a real prospect. The mind has the arsenal of tools, to help combat any situations. The pieces we share here would fine tune it to pull it off in style. In the internet realm, blogs simulate the newspaper reading experience, along with sipping tea. Bulb Magazine is such a prudent option, for mobile and desktop internet users. Brace yourselves for some illustrious positivity blog experience for years to come.

Inspirational blog Problems we target... In this era of competition infested industries, the primacy of staying positive deserves due diligence. Cut throat competition in most sectors today has its pros and cons. Competitive markets make people strive to give their best. Nevertheless, a healthy mind is essential to take advantage of such points. The importance of a strong will to solve day to day problems cannot be deemphasized. It makes us ponder what stops people from consistently staying positive? We have a few factors listed here:
  • Stress
  • Cynicism
  • Mundane life
  • Negative peers
  • Environmental factors
  • Lacking self-confidence
  • And much more...
These factors act as a deterrent to positivity in both work and personal life. It’s no secret why there is a surge in the number of psychiatrists, couples counselors, etc…

Which overlooked qualities shape you into being positive?

Our positivity blog is obliged to introduce you to some overlooked qualities that form people into being positive. Vaunted qualities like vision, intelligence and action are only secondary to unsung qualities we mentioned below. We are just discussing some of the overlooked ones, constructively suggest more qualities or vent your heated anger in comments. Positivity blog
  • Gratitude: Showing appreciation towards others, helps gain a statuesque image for you. It would be remiss of anyone to not work on their gratitude.
  • Compassion: It would be outright foolhardy to pursue positive mindset without showing compassion. The oldest rule in the book is to treat others, the way you treat yourself.
  • Resilience: Showing resilience in the face of bedlams makes good people great. Resilience turns problems that are staring right at you, into bated issues.
We look forward to your suggestions in every stage of this blog’s progress. The posts in first few weeks would be a harbinger of awesomeness, which you can expect in the long run. We promise to show due diligence to your constructive criticism.

Recent Posts

Social Media Influencer Marketing

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Word-of-mouth has been believed to be the best strategy to market a product. While it is true in a conventional way, the ways and means of doing it have changed a bit. In the modern online marketing era, word of mouth extends beyond friends and family recommendations. We have now started looking towards influencer marketing. There are, in fact, people who organize all the content that goes across the internet. These are people who contribute to the growth of social media in ways that are commendable. These people are none other than the so-called Social media Influencers.

So, what exactly do Social Media Influencers do?

Their job profile basically involves connecting with people, informing them about various products and topics; and most importantly, shaping their opinions.

Most social media influencers are people who work in a specific niche. They help people to know about products, brands, and services. They give their opinion to people about the usefulness of a product.

Social media influencers are in fact masters of the content industry. They create content which is valuable for people and for brands. They have a huge fan base on social media. They endorse or promote brands for others. They talk about the products and help in creating brand awareness. Consumers who are fans of the influencers trust them. This leads to more conversions and helps the partners to gain profit.

Influencers have great SEO knowledge. They can contribute in getting genuine backlinks and driving traffic to a site. They can even optimize a website’s search engine ranking.

Social media influencers have their presence everywhere. They have a good amount of following in all the major social platforms. Business owners, especially those who have a Pinterest account and like to give their business a boost can really take the help of social media influencers.

Influencer marketing for Pinterest can be immensely beneficial for business owners. From optimizing your content to amplifying your pins, these people can do everything for you. You surely are to benefit from having their services. They can increase your Pinterest followers to a huge extent.

Like all other platforms, Pinterest too needs quality contents to get noticed. Once you have that, you can be sure to get more Pinterest followers. A Social Media influencer can really come to your help in getting good content and quality photos for your product. And with the massive reputation of the influencer, you can surely have the benefit of having your product marketed to a lot many people.

Social Media influencers are in fact a priority for every brand today. It is cost effective and the products can reach to a large number of consumers at the same time. The growing trend of online marketing has made Social Influencers very popular. They really do influence people by marketing products and brands. They make a brand’s online presence trustworthy.

We hope you found this article informative. Please let us know your views and suggestions in the comment section below. Thanks for reading!…

Buy Followers on Pinterest to get More Traffic to Your Site

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Pinterest is one of the best social networking sites out there. You can use it efficiently to expand your business. The modern-day business world has become extremely competitive. Having an online presence is a must if you want to expand your business. To do this you need to understand the techniques of expanding your reach to the potential customers. Taking the help of social media is a great idea.

Pinterest provides you a platform to market your product. When you have a good number of followers you will have a good reputation. This will naturally lead to more customers. With your popularity on Pinterest, your blog or website will have higher SEO ranking. This will lead to more traffic to your business website.

With the increase in traffic, you can expect more sales. More sales will lead to more growth. Your business will have the means to skyrocket to a new level and expand massively. People always look for profiles with more followers. When you have more followers you gain the trust of others. They start to think that you must have good products. Why else would you have so many followers?

When you buy followers on Pinterest you also need to take care that your products are ready to be promoted. The moment you have your followers you shouldn’t wait to bring out the products to them. A good product when brought up in the right way always sells.

Once you start gaining customers you can go on increasing your follower base by following other strategies. The best among them is to have your Pinterest account linked to all other Social Media platforms. This will help you divert your followers through all your social sites to your Pinterest account and thereafter to your business website. People get influenced by the number of followers on a Pinterest page. This is where having a great number of followers can come to your help.

Your followers can expand your fan base and help you to expand your target market. Your online presence will be increased and you will gain more authority. It will help you to have an influence on the market and promote your product on a wide scale.

All in all, when you buy followers on Pinterest, it can boost your business reach to a large extent and get you where you want to be. Whether you are a startup or an established business, you can always have the advantage of buying followers. You can get that extra motivation when followers bring more followers. The best part of having more followers is that you gain the trust of others which otherwise takes a lot of time to build. In our opinion, buying Pinterest followers is quite a good idea, considering the fact that you buy followers from a trusted source and not just from any website.

We hope you found this article useful. Please let us know if you did. Feel free to give your feedback in the comment section. Thanks for visiting!…

Lucid dreaming

Lucid dreaming

Lucid Dreaming – “… a dream in which the person is aware that he or she is dreaming while the dream is in progress. During lucid dreams, it is possible to exert conscious control over the dream characters and environment, as well as to perform otherwise physically impossible feats. Lucid dreams are known to be extremely real and vivid.” (www.wikipedia.com)

I think many people will agree that dreams are not a compilation of random thoughts, irrelevant to the world, and irrelevant to one’s mind. In fact, I believe many will agree with the assumption that they’ve a certain revealing aspect to them, in terms of the mind.

Well, anyway, this is not as much an informative piece on the mechanics of a lucid dream as it is a suggestion for you to try something different. Surely, many of the people reading this have had dreams; dreams that they’ve had no conscious control over. Wouldn’t it be a fantastic thing to be able to dream, and have complete control over your dream? To be able to move about in your own mind’s fantasy (what that is, I don’t want to know).

I’ve read a lot on various methods for doing so, some of which can be done by anyone. Now, these, most likely, won’t work the first time, or second time. If anything, it will take a while for you to be able to train yourself to consciously recognize when you’re dreaming, but it’s worth it.

I find that the easiest way for one to accomplish this without any professional help deals with writing. When you go to sleep, make sure there is a notebook and writing utensil nearby, close enough that you can easily reach over and make use of them. Write several times, “I will remember my dream.” This, as you may be able to tell, will help imprint that goal into your mind, even when you’re sleeping.

There’s a second use for the notebook, though. Whenever you wake up write, as detailed as possible, what you remember of your dream (if anything). If you wake up during a dream, or directly after a dream’s ending, regardless of how tired you are, muster up the energy to scribble down a few notes of that dream, and go back to sleep. In the morning you, most likely, won’t even remember it, and reading those scribblings will help you to. It will help you reach back into whatever depths you store things, and recall that memory, better allowing you to be consciously aware of what occurs in the recesses of your mind.

Read it several times. If you forget it through out the day, read it again. If you remember something during the day, add it to the notes. The more organized things are, the better.

These are methods that will assist you in recalling, and being aware of dreams. Now, for honing in the conscious control of them, it’s best to imprint (via whatever way) certain signs. By that, I mean take certain objects – and try to burn into your mind that said objects may be signification of whether or not you’re dreaming. The more you do this, the more you will recognize that, say, a clock is in your dream, and when you consciously recognize that, you will thus be aware of your dreaming state.  Try to will the clocks numbers to move, or reach out to it.

Create things, habits that come forth when you dream. What they are is up to you.

(I’ve, personally, only had a couple experiences with lucid dreaming. One of which included me sitting in my room, making things float around. It seems as if the mind takes a while to grasp the fact that it has complete control over a dream, so I wasn’t able to create epic explosions or landscapes at will. It was a bit frustrating: I knew I was dreaming, knew I could do things, though, something just wouldn’t allow for much progress!)…

Questioning knowledge

Questioning knowledge

As a self proclaimed nerd, I take pride in seeking and redistributing the knowledge I find a long the way.  This is not the case for all G.N.D.’s, as a future piece that will deal with the “Geekier than Thou” attitude shall address.  But as a seeker of knowledge, when I do speak, it is usually with some semblance of confidence that I at least have a base understanding of what I am speaking about.  So when G.N.D.’s are placed in a situation where their knowledge is called into question or simply dismissed, the first action taken is usually to do some research.  We hate being wrong, but if we are we at least want to know what we were wrong about so that it doesn’t happen again.

It was general break room conversation, the kind that goes on about the little non indepth, non descript, just enough information to keep down the dreaded silence that all but those trying to read hate.  On this day it just happened to be about the recent influx of winged pests into some co-workers homes. And so I, also having recently experienced this encroachment, commented on the “pumpkin” bug infestation.

“Oh, (awkward silence) no, they are lady bugs.  The news said so.”  was the reply.

The dork in me stopped talking about it.  I didn’t have the confidence to back up my thoughts.   I was pretty sure that the bugs crawling around my house and the run of the mill lady bugs, were in fact two different kinds of bugs.   Sometimes you can judge your audience, and know that no matter how much you try to persuade them otherwise, unless you have the credentials, they will believe the news over you to a fault.

So, when I arrived home, moping at having my added information to the conversation so lightly dismissed, I decided to research the little pests online.

Well, to my slight dismay, while there is a bug called a “pumpkin” bug (I can’t remember where I got the term pumpkin bug from but I was always told that they were not lady bugs)…it is not the kind of bug that is infesting the houses this time of year.  (If you do happen to have a pumpkin or squash patch though, it might be the cause of any current crop issues)  However, I did find out that the beetle that is finding its way through every nook and cranny, is occasionally called a “Halloween” bug due to it’s orange-red color and the time of year it chooses to make it’s way indoors.

So the specifics…

The beetle that is infesting mine and other’s houses is called the Multicolored Asian Lady Beetle.  So it is in fact a lady beetle. However, what we call a “Lady Bug” is what is known as a Convergent Lady Beetle and is a native species, where as the M.A.L.B. comes from Asia. The M.a.l.b. was introduced several times over the past 100 years in an effort to cut down on crop eating aphids and scales.

Our little pesky friends are actually quite harmless.  Once in our homes they do not reproduce as they are simply “overwintering”. They do not eat but instead live off of their fat stores…and if they do eat it’s only soft bodied insects, so they can be a beneficial little critter. The only real issue with them is the stink/stains they produce if they are squished or severely traumatized.  They do this unique thing where they release some of their blood in defense…which happens to smell and stain.

So I might not have been 100% accurate,*tear* but I was right about it not being the same as your average “ladybug”.  I, at least, was not willing to take the news at it’s word, just because it was the news, and I made sure that the next time I spoke of the subject I would at least have a better base understanding, so that I could be confident in my facts.  I also have the added benefit of having learned some interesting new facts I might not otherwise have known, had my knowledge not been questioned.  (Like the best way to rid your house …

Sometimes you cant write what you want : Assignments & work

Sometimes you cant write what you want : Assignments & work

I have a writing assignment a bit past due…but I have to get this out for the world to read…

Wednesday night, I packed up my 1999 Volkwagon Beetle with my laptop, camera, notebooks, writing utensils, legal releases, digital camera and my friend’s camcorder to proceed on my quest to interview Rhode Island’s very own Inner Self Lost- an up and coming metal/rock band that’s about to release their 3rd CD.

The band’s lineup has changed since the last time I saw them…the old skool group of band members has altered slowly over the past few years to include some of the most insane, young talent to come out of the Ocean State.  I couldn’t help but wonder what exactly I was getting myself into.  Were these new guys going to be worth my time and energy?  Why am I working for a cause that was relatively unknown to myself?  It all comes down to one word…friends.

Mike, the band’s frontman and lead singer, and I go back to the turn of the new millenium.  We worked together in one of those God-awful mall stores, completely reliant on the hearts of Corporate America.  The only problem? Corporate America doesn’t have a heart. Do I regret it?  Not at all, for if I got aboslutely nothing else out of this retail experience, I now have a great friend for an eternity who has the most interesting perspectives on every aspect of life.  I could sit and listen to him go on and on about how Metallica has no heart or about a white shirt that he wants to have in his wardrobe so that he can exit his future home through french doors that open to a vineyard…only he doesn’t actually leave the house, he just opens the two doors simulatenously while wearing this poet-sleeved, button down shirt…just to make a “whooshing” sound as the doors swing outward.  Yup…good times.

Kyle on bass guitar is another of my buds that came out of that work experience, but not in the same manner as Mike. While Kyle did work with me, that adventure didn’t take place until a few years later.  Kyle came into the store on its opening day and took the liberty of introducing himself to me as I sat on a bench in the back of the store. He extended his hand to shake mine… “Hi! I’m Kyle!”  His presence?  A young Val Kilmer (but with a personality), or as his mom told me, “He gets Brad Pitt a lot”.

So I met the remaining two members of this new lineup, as Mike is the only remaining original member.  It is, after all, his band.

AJ was there upon my arrival…oodles of personality pouring out of every tattoo and piercing on his body.  But could he play the drums?  Undoubtedly insane…He reminded me of someone, but I couldn’t put my finger on who this twenty-something drummer was sparking a memory of.  I still can’t actually…so I will have to spend some time later fiddling through clips of drum solos on YouTube-

But Georgie–Let me just start by saying that I now know how Ozzy Ozbourne felt when a then teen-aged Randy Rhoads walked into his studio to audition for the first solo Ozzy album…

In walks this long-limbed, teen-age boy…a boy…that I’ve heard nothing but amazing comments about.  I believe he was referred to as a ‘prodigy’.  Prodigy is an understatement, if that’s possible.  As this young man played his guitar, I sat in an armchair across the room…very thankful that it was in fact an armchair so that I could put my right elbow someplace to hold my chin up from hitting the floor.  Flashbacks on my teenage years poured through my mind.  The first time that I saw Randy Rhoads play the guitar…how he made it look so easy.  How pissed off I was that I was born with short, stubby fingers, left unable to play any sort of string instrument other than a violin…which I had no interest in learning.  How the day in March of 1982 when Randy was tragically killed in a small plane crash took a piece of my heart and soul that …

A great dating site for Nigerians – No need to be lonely anymore!

A great dating site for Nigerians – No need to be lonely anymore!

I have been contacted by a lot of people asking me to post a review for the best Nigerian dating site. I finally got the time to make this post and make a detailed review.

A lot of people are troubled with their single life and in need of companionship. Being single usually makes the individual more lonely and depressed. Being with someone is not only good for happiness but also a way to get a constant motivator in life.

With the world being modernized, there are a lot of dating websites that have come up and are making matchmaking an extremely easy task. But, there are still some countries that do not have a good dating website restricted only ro there country. Nigeria used to be one of these countries.

After doing a thorough research i realized that there are a lot of dating sites in Nigeria, but none of them seemed to be worth using. But, there is always one diamond that is waiting to be found. Amidst all the portals, i found an amazing site for dating in Nigeria called nigerian dating hub. It was not only filled with great features but it was also 100% free.  I have reviewed this website below :

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This is no doubt the best dating site in nigeria, what i loved about this site is its simple UI. You can literally find someone in minutes after you register.

Price – Free

Compatible Devices – Mobile, Laptop, Computer, Tablet

Rating – 4.5/5

Urlhttp://nigeriandatinghub.com

Life goes on quotes

Life goes on quotes

This article has amazing quotes that will motivate you.  It doesn’t speak much about philosophy. Its only purpose is to cheer you up. It fits well into IM or SMS forward messages arena. No quotes are good for IM sharing if they are too intimidating. Short, crispy and brainy quotes are need of the hour in internet realm. We thrive to deliver you just that. These quotes are inspired by works of literature and of course, real life scenarios. Some quotes are inspired by modern day culture, especially movies.

This ‘life goes on’ quotes do motivate you in an indirect and sneaky way. It carries anomalies of elements of greatness, fun and even, some silliness. You would see analogies of a river, chess board, viruses and what not. It’s that sudden spurt of encouragement that you get within a couple of lines. Some quotes in this compilation are much shorter. It’s very relatable and to the point. For the most part, it’s the reflection of three magic words – Life goes on. We tried to explain exactly that, without getting too philosophical.

No one likes it when the source of motivation looks so desperate. It has to bring some feel-good effect while staying simple.  You shouldn’t need a dictionary to understand what the quotes mean. It can’t reference to anything sad or cynical. It should be a joy to read and repeat the quotes. Such are the quotes presented here. You can use them as cool shares as well as daily status. If sharing doesn’t fit you, just save it for a relaxing read. Share us, your feedback and suggestions on quotes compilation in comments below.

We have compiled here some of the best life goes on sayings here. Treasure these keep going quotes to find inspiration when it’s needed. Share it with your dear ones, if you like them.

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Life goes on sayings

Sports and games are proxy wars. Let’s take a leaf out of them for life lessons.

Outdoor sports:

   Life goes on, quick and continuous. For the most part, you would be playing catch up.

Life isn’t a sprint. It is a marathon. The race is always on.

Here’s the indoor game reference:

   Life is so like chess, except it got no endgame. You only prepare for it.

Game of life doesn’t end after the king is down. All it requires are the squares, not the pieces.

As always, Mother Nature can provide invaluable lessons herself

   Nights happen for a reason. They show us that life isn’t always bright.

Life is like Mother Earth. She is round without any ends.

Our four million years old Planet taught us one ultimate lesson – Being alive is awesome.

Here’s something for the movie buffs, especially Spielberg fans

   Cinema is life, written all over it. It’s life, except for the boring parts and no climax.

The best lesson from the original Jurassic Park flick – life finds a way

Here are quotes to reach out for your bravado. Yeah, you can do it

  When you have just hit rock bottom, remember new beginnings are waiting to happen.

Be the brave soul. Make a mistake. Learn from it. And move on.

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Get going quotes

Those bravado quotes must cheer you up. Every living soul has the right to believe in new beginnings. From moving places to changing your brand of cigarettes, everything works. The goal is to get going. Simply put, being able to go on is of paramount importance. However, there are always going to be some roadblocks. Addressing the inevitable goes a long way.

We cannot rule out the demeaning facts.

   There’s only a few who live, in the midst of millions who only exists. The only way you make it count is by living to the fullest.

Life is cruel. It gets going, when you don’t want it.

Viruses are excellent when they are alive. For the most part, they are dead as a crystal.

Dead people are the greatest teachers. They show you, life goes on, without them.

Believe it or not, life restores equality.

   There’s always a tomorrow. There’s always another tide. Life just goes on.

For both princes and poppers, the old unruly

Ways to motivate employees without money

Ways to motivate employees without money

Every employer must know these ways to motivate employees without money , like back of the hand. In a lot of cases, the entrepreneur should know ways to do it without money. The long list would include case of start-ups, times when the budget is tight, and more…

Rewarding your employees’ brilliance with cash isn’t actually that motivating. It fattens the wallet, but doesn’t make the heart happy. A heedful employee must look beyond money, when it comes to motivating staff. Employees will be the first clients, your office deals with. You need to treat them with more dignity, than you show with clients.

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Beyond cash, there are more meaningful ways to reward your employees. Make people see their purpose clearly, in the organization. That’s the way to get your employees to go the extra mile for you.

Here’s a list of 10 ways to motivate employees without money:

  1. Public appreciation:

As a rule of thumb, praise in public and criticize in private. Appreciating behind the curtains makes your employees disconnected from their peers. It has all the contingencies to backfire. Publicly recognize your employee’s good work. It makes the day for them and encourages others to replicate such performance. Do praise in public frequently, but not too frequently. Don’t compliment them for the work they are supposed to be doing. Delicately, spot the excellence amongst standard performances. You can brag about the performance, but not about the employee.

  1. Honesty and transparency:

You can reward any individual by showing a little honesty. Make them fancy what company did for them, rather than what they did for the company. Be honest about the company’s long term goals and propaganda. Facilitate your employees to access everything except company’s sensitive data. Share as much information as you would share with a venture capitalist or investor. Earning trust with employees, benefits businesses in the long run.

  1. Promote internally:

Do not bring people from the outside, unless your talent pool needs new skills. Build a culture of promoting internally for higher positions. Looking externally for candidates, would miss the prospect of motivating your loyal employees. Promoting internally will make employees believe in progress, given they are committed. Additionally, it saves a lot on recruitment costs. Employees with long histories in the organization don’t have to make efforts to fit into office culture.

  1. Parties and events:

If you want to develop a spirited team, your office atmosphere shouldn’t be all business. To people who help run your business, nothing can serve as a better tribute than office parties. It helps ease up on day to day stress and alleviate pains of mundane lives. When you are throwing an office party, you should be an active participant too. You can ask your employees to take up some responsibilities in party planning.

  1. Boss-like privileges:

Not everyone needs to be made the CEO. But extending some of the boss like privileges to white and blue collar workers goes a long way. It makes anyone desire to join your company. Have sleep pods and relaxation rooms inside the premises. Legalizing the short catnaps doesn’t hurt working hours. Allow employees to bring their pets to office, if it doesn’t disturb office activities. Include more snacks to go with coffee. These are the big, small changes that will make employees feel awesome at office. If it suits the functioning of your organization, allow flexible work hours for employees.

  1. Time-offs:

Time-offs can motivate employees directly. It many sound odd, but it’s true. Managers who don’t give even the most reasonable time-offs, automatically become horrible bosses. No employee likes to work under the reign of horrible bosses. Giving your employees, time off during birthdays and anniversaries is a sure-fire way to win their hearts. To a lot of white collar workers, time offs would be the automatic preference over monetary incentives. A shorter work day on special occasions goes a long way in establishing a healthy employee-organization relationship.

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  1. Learning opportunities:

Committed employees would always desire learning something along the lines of work. Provide them with opportunities to explore seminars and classes. Help them learn the various dimensions of the business. Besides motivation, the benefits include huge spike in intellectual property. You get much smarter …

Life hacks to always stay happy

Life hacks to always stay happy

How often do you see people who are always happy? We are talking about people who stay happy, no matter what’s happening in their lives. It’s not every day you see individuals who are like that. Nevertheless, all of us have come across someone like that. Do you wonder what they do to keep themselves happy? We don’t have every happy individual’s version of it. But, we present to you the top 6 life hacks to stay happy, while being yourself.

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Open mind is the key

Keep your mind broad and open. Solitude alone can positively test your open mind. The more you explore yourself, the more you will realize your problems aren’t that unique. The goals of you and other individuals don’t differ that much. With such realization, the outside world would look a lot less hostile to you. You would feel more like being home. It would be easy to understand we are all connected to make the world, a happy place.

Show gratitude

The person with the least complaints is the happiest person. Learn to love what you have. Don’t take the facilities you have, for granted. Stay away from whining, even when life is harsh on you. Gratitude leads way to humbleness, politeness and respect. Gratitude and compassion helps see life in a more pleasant way.

Your pursuit of happiness begins with you

Ideally, you shouldn’t be searching for happiness externally. Every person needs have their own recipe of happiness. Casting a smile on strangers, goes a long way. Empty your mind of all negative thoughts. Replace it with injected positive thoughts of your own. Once you work on your inner self, your perception of the outer world would change for the better.

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This tip should come as the classic. Just because, it keeps repeated everywhere, doesn’t mean it’s overrated. Stop trying hard to please someone. Moreover, stop pretending to be someone else. Pretending to be someone else works you out, too much. It bogs you down, thereby making the ‘happy you’ a distant possibility. Embrace your real and original identity. Catch a break often and keep returning to your real self.

Being alone and being happy

This would be the essential follow up to the last tip. Harmony is the key to living in cultural space. However, singling out occasionally, for the purpose of spending time with yourself, is essential. Being happy with someone else is trickier than being happy with yourself. Get to know you more and enjoy doing that. Balance solitude and harmony, to explore the real happy you.

Accept yourself

There is a thin line of difference between being you and accepting yourself. Being the judgemental people we are, the person that’s often judged by us is us. At times, we cannot tolerate our mistakes. Sometimes we hold ourselves a little more accountable for setbacks and failures in life. It’s time to give room for mistakes and appreciate ourselves a little more.

Bottomline: Willing to focus more on the positives is the key to happiness.

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Motivating yourself with kindness

Motivating yourself with kindness

The thing about motivation is it comes with an expiry date. You need to keep motivating yourself regularly. More importantly, you should motivate yourself with kindness. When you are trying to make it through a tough phase in life, harsh voices inside the head, doesn’t help.

A lot of us would agree on the significance of compassion. Your compassion yields best results, only when it includes you. Don’t be harsh on yourself. Give room for mistakes and accept your personality.

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Observe how you talk to yourself, especially when going through difficulties. Does your mind speak in a way of patting your back? Does it sound really compassionate and soothes you in? Does it encourage you with positive words only? If you said yes to all the questions, that’s the right way to motivate yourself. If you said no, you need to add some simple mind tweaks.

We tend to believe harsh inner voice would result in self-improvement. A lot of us at least think that way. We are unforgiving of ourselves in our harsh criticisms. Sometimes we tend to go overboard, thereby being brutal to ourselves. What we emphasize in those situations, is to tweak your thinking.

Being harsh in criticism isn’t necessarily the way forward. Would you be harsh in your criticism, if it was your loved ones instead of you? Ideally you wouldn’t be, because it wounds the relationship. Similarly, self-criticisms can make your conscience and heart, distant.

When it comes to self motivation, kind words are more effective than harsh inner voices. You need to gather as much relaxation and hope as you can, especially when you are already down. Inner criticism doesn’t stop you from repeating the mistakes in future. Instead, it develops stress and attacks self-esteem.

Self-criticisms make you conscious about the pitfalls. It doesn’t instill self-confidence, rather gets you nervous. Following procrastination, you are more likely to berate yourself in worst ways. In my personal experience, the more you berate yourself, the more likely you are going to postpone things again. That is how stress works on average human minds.

motivating yourselfThe points discussed above, leads us to one straightforward question – how to stop being harsh on ourselves? Being harsh on ourselves isn’t weakness, its human nature. It can be undone by exercising caution. When you catch yourself red handed for berating yourself, freeze your thought process. Do not try to argue over what you said or play some nasty tug of war in your mind. Instead, take a deep breath and relax.

Do not engage your conscious and inner critic to get into an argument. Understand, self-criticism means to help you. It’s the natural response aimed to deter repeating of specific actions, which lead to failures in life. When it gets harsh, it’s time to acknowledge the help and bid your byes to your inner critic.

Make sure to show kindness to everyone, including you. Don’t consciously motivate yourself with kindness. When your motivation seems harsh, inject kindness into it. Such an approach would do wonders in day to day life.

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